and doodler, none of the three A's in the R by me (abuse, affiar, addiction), really just been neglect of her emotions/feelings. I didn't understand what I was doing, didn't have the roadmap, etc. I was clueless how to respond to her, and ignored the thing I didn't understand (her). I do feel if this is truly all that's gone wrong, then she's giving up too easy, but if there is something else driving this, some other devil inside, then it's a different battle all together, and a little more understandable to me.
