Glad you found something you all could do together. And it made me smile too. You have an 11 year old girl with some trouble handling the heavy bowling ball. Well, I normally get myself in some trouble and very tired trying to keep up with the hooligans.
My two older boys did football in high school and they work out at the nearby gym. S16 is still doing football and keeps his workout. They are tall, strong and seems like they never get tired.
I was at a mountain resort some time ago with the boys and we were playing tackle football in a pool. There was a gentleman that approached us and said that he was really impressed and amazed to see my willingness to play that rough game with the boys and he was impressed with such happiness. We talked for a little while and it just happen that he was a LBS but had no kids.
When I read about your wife I also think that it is so hard to understand these people that leave their families and then find themselves so lost. It is really sad and it is difficult to get our minds around it since they do not think the same way we do.
We see that things can be worked out even if it is difficult. We see that if they just shake off the dust and take a decision to find their direction, that everything would be slowly falling into place. But I guess, there are some different chemicals in their brains that do not allow them to see the same way and create just depression.
As with many other things in life, maybe time will tell if your WW will get better or be in a constant hell.
RD, did you ever hear about this OM? Like if he has family near by, or was married before? I know some people with bipolar disorder that are totally alone and the family basically gave up on them because they are very hard to deal with. Some don't really take their medications all the time and they do not function well among other people.
Did your W ever said what is her goal helping this man?
Anyway, I can only see that she got herself into hell and it is hard to get out of there. Some people with this kind of sickness are only trouble and their lives are really messed up all the time.
I see you are feeling better and I can almost picture how it goes since it has been the same for me. Slowly we built a life for ourselves and the kids and we find happiness in it.
It's not the same anymore, but sometimes it is even better as it was before. So, I get mixed up about my feelings regarding the M. I guess you find yourself in the same spot as well.
The only thing that stays unresolved is that emptiness and loneliness feeling that crashes the heart sometimes. I wonder if you feel that way too. We are happy and busy being parents, workers, helpers, etc... but the man feels the absence of love, friendship, caring. How does the man feels these days ?
Well, just my melancholic side talking here. I still admire you a lot RD. This family man side of yours is really attractive, shame we are so far away.
