OFP's in my county are given out as benefit of the doubt. I've heard stories about people who tried to fight them, with a whole line of witnesses testifying the accusations are actually backward (one example, she was the abusive one, filing an OFP against him), and the OFP was still granted. It is quite sickening to hear the stories.
I agreed to the OFP, without fighting it, but managed to get some adjustments made, and sounds like it worked out for me about as good as I could hope for.
Obviously W didn't think about the repercussions of her actions. Still hasn't, still is playing the victim. Still thinks I actually did the things she claimed to get the OFP. Still thinks I am following her, thinks I am wasting money even though she has spent 3 times as much as I have, thinks my atty is wasting money by taking too long even though her atty is always the hold-up.
W never tried leaving. W suggested we take some time apart, I offered to stay in the basement because our house is huge. Apparently that wasn't going to work for her. W never offered to leave. She needed to be safe from the big bad manipulator that would continue to ask her to go to MC, what an awful person I am!
W didn't ask to stay in the house in the OFP, I actually offered it to her. Stupid me! Again, what an awful person I am!
W said she'd never try to keep the kids from me. But then, guess what, tried to keep the kids from me. She says to my mom "that's just how they do OFP.s", but then at the hearing when we reviewed the details of the OFP, her atty was telling her I would have unsupervised time with the kids, she was very reluctant to agree.
There are two things I can do. First, offer MC, which I did. Second, file for D, which I did. There is nothing else that can be changed unless W agrees to the change.
The OFP will run it's course and be over in 5 1/2 months from now. She may try to get an extension, but will have nothing for a reason.
