Validation does not mean that you agree with her nor does it mean that you stop fighting for your rights.
It means that you do not try to get her to understand the logic of things. You will not convince her of anything.
You can validate while being honest and to the point on decisions that you make. You do not need to explain yourself or your reasons for your decisions.
Review validation information and hopefully it can become more clear for you as you work on it. The links in cadets homework are good for reviewing this.
You can do this, keep at it and work to detach. Validation is easier when we detach.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
