I'll admit I also have been tempted to try and interfere with WW's plans sometimes, when they don't include me. However, I think ultimately some things may just have to play themselves out before we could have any real chance at reconciliation. Even if I could perfectly/anonymously screw with her plans, would that actually be helping, or would it just be prolonging her time in the fantasy world?
Me, WW - Upper 30s BD - Apr 1 2016 EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away) Confronted wife about EA - May 17 Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11