What a challenging sitch you have been dealing with.
Some thoughts if I may.
Your conversation with your stbx sounds to be focused on logic and facts as you see them. While this makes sense to you, understanding that it does not make sense to her makes the conversation un productive with her.
It's like arguing that the sky is blue when she truly sees it as purple. No amount of discussion nor details will change this for her. And more importantly, coming from you nothing you say will get past her walls. This is why valedation is key. Continue to learn and practice this, and you will be able to better move forward.
Understand that in her state of mind, no matter what you do it will be viewed poorly. Knowing this has helped me second guess my actions much less and be more confident in my decisions.
I hope you can make peace and joyful moments for yourself today. It is needed.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
