Focus on me and my boys

[J5K]

So this morning I came home to get the boys to school. I asked STBX if she was OK because she has a doctor appointment tomorrow back in Toronto. She started to cry. I tried to empathize and told her I am here for her of she needs anything. She said she doesn't need anything from me.

Then she started to say that she is not trying to take the kids away from me. That I should move to Toronto and she said she was upset that I did not allow her to take them there this weekend.

I said this divorce is hurting the boys. She just continued with blaming me saying that she tried to be friends with me but I do not. I stated that we both made mistakes.

I cannot understand how she can separate the M from the boys.

She went back to saying that I knew what I was doing when I sold the house. I stated that she manipulated me thinking we were reconciling.

She still thinks she is going to change the nesting plan for the summer and is upset we are spending all this money. I told her this is on her and she did not care.

I asked why is it that we have to do everything that you want? Again no answer.

She stated she has been unhappy for a year and a half. She will never forgive me for filing first and to just accept things the way they are.

She has no regard for anything. How do I even build a friendship if I just agree to everything she says?