You are loved, he loves you. I can see that and I think everyone here can see that. He wants to be with you, he doesn't want to be with the anger. He doesn't want to live in fear. He does want to be with his sweet loving wife.
I think ML and being close and intimate is a good thing. Its the internal crazymaking that isn't so good. If you can seperate the two, it will be more progress. There is a lot of good I can see in that interaction. Know that he loves you, show him more of the person he loves, less of the person hes afraid to love.
