For me first it was the realization that Dbing and the advice on this site was for me first and not to bring my WAW back. This is key.
You must focus on you first. Then as you do that you will become the person only a fool would leave.
If the fool leaves then you are still that person, but now in a place to be okay with the fool leaving.
I have added to this the thought that if the fool leaves, I will also be the person that will attract the person/people that I deserve to have relationships with.
But first, I want to be the father my daughters deserve. Again, start there. Baby steps.
You can do this my friend. Check my thread and maybe you can see the progress I have made, as well as know that I have been in the depths of he//. So you can see it is possible to get out.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine