I agree with RD. Many WAS are so entrenched in their belief that the LBS is at fault, unchanging and unlovable that they cannot see/accept what everyone else sees.
The good news is that most WAS eventually do realize what they should have known all along.
I have no real advice just my support. I understand where you are at and I share those feelings. People have turned things around in far worse situations.
As you don't need to post very often nowadays I assume you are fairly alright. That is good. On the limited postings since ye moved out, I wonder if you could maybe pull back further.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together