Hi Painter. I honestly don't know what to say, except that I'm here and i will continue to be. I can regale you with silly stories of baby chicks or MeetUps gone awry, but it's all in an effort to distract, and right now I know your pain is too raw for simple distraction.

I do think that you need to do what's best for you right now, and I'm not at all sure that confronting him will bring you healing. Maybe you need the experience to process your anger, but I guess I would urge you consider how you will feel about anything you do or say in hindsight. Zeus' post kind of said it all on that front. You will never regret looking back and knowing that you were the better person in this mess, that you took the high road at every juncture.

I wish your pain would end yesterday. I wish I could reach out and give you the hug you need and deserve.

(((((Painter)))))


I'll check in on you again tonight. In the meantime, tonght you should settle in with a beautiful pot of tea. As Annie Proulx says, "Tea is a good drink. It'll keep you going."

Love that line.

H: 44, Me: 45
Married: 20 y Together: 25 y
no kids
Walk away: 12/15
Asked for temp separation 12/25/15
PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had)
H filed for D 5/16