WW confused about the future.

[excile101]

I got advice from a lawyer and from what he said, I am getting more than average visitation at the moment. I have been advised to record my visits and the length of time I spend with the kids and he fears that once I find my own place, things are likely to change, requiring mediation to set structured times.
At the moment, due to UK law, which she is adhering to, I may want to make my life easier and negotiate what I can with her unless they get messy. Ultimately, if I want to play hard ball, then it will start costing me alot of money and the outcome will not really change.

I think Sandi2 was right in that she resents me being in the house. She is quick to tell me when it is time to go and although she is being "friendlier" than she has been, she isn't the woman I married anymore.

This forum is about saving marriages, but to be honest, I can't see how this can be saved at the moment. She is still adamant about ending it even though it is difficult for her and is probably putting up a wall to protect herself.

What I find odd, is that neither of us are going to be better off after divorce. We have young kids and a house and although I am scrambling around trying to think of ways to rebuild my life and deal with the crushing loneliness, hers has not changed at all. She has the same routines and is content. She only really speaks to me about the kids but I wish she would drop her guard and show me some of the tenderness that she once did. Apart from the issue I had before, we didn't want for anything and had a normal family life. I am questioning everything right now and still find it hard to believe that she would not want to be part of what we had.

I guess I am trying to rationalize what has happened and think of what to do with myself now as I have programmed myself to be a husband and family man for the long haul. Wish there was something I could do to shock her into seeing what she will loose.