Great post V....yeuch......waywardness is indeed horrible....

It's rotten meet, dressed up with a herby crumb coating and a nice sauce on the side. Looks like the perfect dish, but when you eat into it, there's a different story.

My H's OW has done this TWICE now. Had an A, and his M ended (kids involved.) Cheated on him with XH (child involved) and our M ended. I still struggle to wrap my head around that. I can see how someone might do it once and think - wow, that was a pretty awful situation...but twice?? I manage to feel some compassion in that there must be some sad circumstances from childhood that led to that behaviour.

But in general I feel - wow, you are welcome to each other and I want no part in that....but it does all take time xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus