Hi Painter, I'm sorry to hear how things have unfolded - ugh...
My D has just been finalised (H filed and carried through right to the end.) In fact the end of the M is really helping me move on now. I'm only posting because I have had the same inner debate about filing on grounds of infidelity and citing OW in the D petition. If I had done that, she would have received the petition at work and it would all have been a bit of a drama and horrible for her I guess. I kind of loved the thought of that....wow - you can even claim for OW to pay your costs here. And I could have listed his 'spends' on her ('000s) and had those taken into account before splitting assets....all highly tempting...he he
But I wasn't ready to file in any case and ultimately I'm glad that H filed as he did and I didn't even need to make that decision. The only thing I would say is try to act from your own highest place and think in a long term way about what you are going to feel happy with looking back....what you are feeling (understandably) right now, is likely to change in time and he/she won't really matter..you're the one that matters and you'll be the one to live the path you have chosen and live with the choices you make.
Take care Sweetie xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
