I think your W was upset because your S was upset. I am like that too. I get really angry when kid gets upset with xh.

I can see where the confusion might have set in wrt to the daddies only trip. You said daddies only and your S really thought that there would only be you and your neighbour. When your S saw your neighbour's son, he might have jumped to the conclusion that he couldn't go because your W didnt go. Your S probably would have loved to spend the time at the lake with you.

When emotions are running high, everyone gets defensive. Perhaps when emotions have cooled down, you could validate your W's frustrations with dealing with your S. And maybe explain to your S about what had happened in front of W.

In the meantime, enjoy yourself and let everyone cool down.

You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.