Wow, was I wrong about him telling the truth yesterday.

My stepdaughter went to see H today. He texted to her on the way that he had a couple of surprises, and when she said, how fun, he said "I hope". She texted that to me and said she was nervous. So was I. We started wondering if OW was there. She said if so, she would want to just leave again.

She texted a little later that she was horrified, the house was unrecognizable, and OW has moved in. H made her promise not to tell me. She is terrified of losing him, but tried to talk to him about what he is throwing away and how wrong she thinks his choices are.
I am furious at him for basically abusing her (she has PTSD after severe abuse by her mother and can be easily manipulated because she is so afraid of causing anyone to be angry with her). But he is making her an accomplice to his deceit and lies, and it is causing her terrible pain and conflict because she also loves me and feels that he is treating me so badly.

I hope she will talk to me later tonight and share more. I suggested that she tell her dad that she won't be an accomplice to his deceit and that he will have to tell me himself. She shouldn't be put in the middle.

I have had a hell of an afternoon and evening. So happy I have medication to take. I can understand why people turn to alcohol and drugs.

I really didn't expect it to be like it was the first time I found out, it's almost as bad. Except now all hope is gone.

M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17