Blu, I really can relate to so many of the things you say about your relationship. I really am starting to think that we married really similar men. Almost everything you say is familiar.

Who knows what the future holds, but hindsight has shown me a lot of things that I did not realize about H. It's sad. I wish he could have told me what was going on but he was too busy keeping the peace. What a terrible loss for us both.

H: 44, Me: 45
Married: 20 y Together: 25 y
no kids
Walk away: 12/15
Asked for temp separation 12/25/15
PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had)
H filed for D 5/16