Sounds like talking to your lawyer is definitely a good thing to be on the safe side, but as you note, it very well could be a bluff. Given that she's seemingly tried every other tactic she can think of as well, it seems more likely. And if she really had solid legal standing, wouldn't she have led with that a lot sooner?
I called a friend of the family who's a real estate attorney and he said he doesn't know of that ever happening, unless there is physical abuse involved, or heavy, consistent adultery proven by one spouse. I also called the attorney I consulted with the first time, and a second one who was recommended to me by a friend, and I'm waiting to hear back from both of them. Most of the law I've read regarding my state (it's a no-fault state), says that it would take a GREAT DEAL of circumstance for the spouse who wants the divorce, to 'kick out' a Spouse who doesn't, and is the single-name property owner, especially considering it's pre-marital prop. Still, getting 95% reassurance that it won't happen, doesn't stop me from having thoughts that I COULD be in that unfortunate 5%.
