Well, the recent visit was certainly unexpected, but the content, and outcome comes as no surprise. I used the rules, I wasn't 'ignoring her', but was busy upstairs and when I came down she said hi first and i returned the favor. W said she was just coming by to pick up some stuff and then mumbled a bunch of stuff under her breath about the pets and me not know how to take care of them or something the rather. I just nodded and said 'sounds good, <i pointed to two nice tall stacks on the counter>, said 'there is all your papers, mail, documents, etc (they were just laying around the kitchen and living room). She said 'okay', and then somehow turned two nicely sorted stacks of 50 a piece, into about 40 stacks of 1-3 papers a piece all over the place, and then said 'okay, well I'll probably be back on Monday to take care of xyz.' I nodded, said, 'okay, maybe i'll see ya then.' and out she went... I stacked the papers back up and moved them to where they were before.
All in all, It lasted about 10 minutes total, not much said (didn't expect much), she initiated every conversation, I made sure not to interrupt, listened, and responded briefly to each topic, no R talk at all. and it was done. When I saw her pull in the drive, my anxiety went from zero to 99 in about .1 seconds. I was able to calm myself before going face-to-face.
