How to rekindle love?

[Rose888]

Thanks, Blu and JujuB. I appreciate the perspective and advice.

I am doing good, all things considered. I'm working on GAL, the only R talks are ones H initiates and I'm not getting too emotional during them. I seem to be in a sweet spot where I can recognize my flaws and failures in the marriage without having to undermine my estimation of my personal worth.

Undoubtedly this is in large part because I have a lot of optimism that the MR will work out. PMA will be much much harder if things start getting rocky again.

Our second counseling appointment is Monday. I like the idea of a sex therapist, but H doesn't. I appreciate him agreeing to any counseling, as this is a 180 for him.

Recent GAL activities:
- attending an out-of-state work conference where I met lots of influential people
- tackled a big weed patch and transplanted other plants into the space
- bought concert tickets for me and three of my kids for a concert this summer
- played a board game with some of my kids
- enjoying our hammock

The current trajectory is good, but I realize I don't completely control the course.

Tonight H and I have our joint book group. Tomorrow I have my church small group.