Been taking a break for a while to do some serious work and trying to drop the rope. After a couple of R talks initiated by me, I have come to the belief that R talks are detrimental as we all have been told many times over. For instance.
About a month ago WW came over and I initiated R talk. She seemed a bit concerned that I was in a hurry to move on. Even made comments like "you got somebody picked out?". I said "i didnt say that". I was pushing her for a time frame that she just couldnt give. When she sensed that I was still in pursuit of her, the whole dynamic of the conversation changed. She knew she still had me so right then essentially the talk was over.
So, MDay weekend I asked if I could bring her present by on friday as I wouldnt be around on Sunday. She said sure. I had made her abig pot full of her fave flowers. The first question she asked when I showed up was "so, where are you going this weekend?" Thought that odd.
I guess my bottom line reality check is. Try to drop the rope and and no R talk. We have been S for two months now and the first R talk after one month put me back to square one. Been solidly Dbing for a month and we were scheduled to revisit R talk in about a week. I will not bring it up. I will see if she does. She expects me to because she knows me and already said, "you are so impatient". Maybe it will make her wonder if I dont bring it up. Who knows? I have had a few good interactions with her. Laughing, and talking casually. She asked about a recent Dr appt I had etc. I dont read too much into it. She still continues to like some of my posts on FB. Could be just for appearances. Again, who knows.
I guess a question I have is, should i be trying to have more contact with her, or continue status quo. I have not discovered A but still dont rule it out. I would like advice from a veteran Dber. Sandi, any advice on my sitch at this point?
^^^^^Bumping this so that some vets might help with daybyday 's question^^^^^
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
I would continue as you have been and I wouldn't bring up relationship talk to her. If she initiates the relationship conversation, you can respond...but no expectations. The less you pursue her, the better.
BTW, please start a new thread.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
