So I've noticed something.

It came from talking to the colleague and friend of my H whose husband was a kind of mentor to my H. He was in his 50s I think, and he struggled with his own mental health issues (depression), who had an affair, and who then killed himself w couple of years ago.

Anyway, she pointed out that for a while my H had been posting strange things on FB. It was maybe going on for about two years before he left in October.

Anyway, I've been occasionally having a look at his FB page over the past seven months. I think I see a bit of a pattern emerging. When he's about to do something which is stressful in some way to him (not work related, but to do with relationships) his weird posts increase in frequency and randomness.

He's doing some at the moment.

Just observing. From a distance.

I'm OK at the moment. Had a good day's work yesterday, and a really great GAL night last night in the company of some of my work colleagues. Very tired today and feeling a little ill (like I'm getting a cold), but not feeling too off balance and out of kilter with myself. So I feel good about that.


Me: 48, XH: 42
T: 18 years, M: 15 years

EA/PA 1: 6/2012
EA/PA 2: from autumn 2012-present

BD: 5/2013
ILYBNILWY BD & left: 10/2015

OW conceived: 8/2016
Born: 4/2017

H filed: 7/2017
D final: 28/12/2017