Know this, when another is ready to see they will, if they aren't they won't.
Stop'showing' your change, that will come across as in authentic. What changes can change back.
Instead work on you.
I can tell you that it is about your needs in a sexual environment. There is no requirement to satisfy another in this.
What is possible is to know your own needs and to satisfy those for yourself. That sounds like maturation, well that's part of it.
The sexiest organ of the human body is the mind. So it's about being the sassy person you can be. If you want Sassy take a look at Greengrass and her sassy. I admire that gal or SunnyB, or even heaven forbid that old bird Vanilla or her glam sis.
Some girls are just sexy, full stop. It isn't beauty or low cut dresses or wiggly bits. It's sexy despite jiggly bits. It's going the distance for yourself.
It's knowingredients what turns you on, it's starting the process every morning you wake up. It's being attractive to yourself. It's starting with extreme care.
It's wanting to know what is a big turn out for your partner and what isn't, as it pleases YOU to know. It's doing something for theme because it's sexy for you. So if being tied up to a lamppost singing stars and stripes isn't for you don't do it as it hurts and is damaging for you then certainly not. If your other half wants to wear a tea cosy on his head and it's harmless go along.
In my view your priority for your sexual need was low and thus your comment about low priority for his. It is his job to satisfy his needs not yours. Drop the guilt on this aspect, and say you didn't prioritise YOUR needs. As long as you concentrate on him, you miss out on you. It sounds the same and it's not.
Why not?
Your sexuality is in you, focused on you. Keep concentrating on him and it will seem like adaption. I can be Sexy for you when you need me to be, that is a desperate stance. It will come off that way.
So start being sexy for you, learn how to turn you on, so that you are sexy. If that sounds cold too, it is rather. If that sounds planned it is too. It's deliberate.
So let me tell you about me. I am deeply sexual, for me, it wasn't lack of naughties that caused my M to fail in fact H3 said recently to a mutual friend, V is the sexiest woman of all, no OW has matched her. It was other reasons that did my M in.
So what do I do?
It starts in the mind, with the thoughts of sex, it starts with dressing well, nice underwear, looking after my grooming, feeling well, being at my healthiest. Clean fresh breath, makeup.
Texts and other firts.
And yes occasionally it means getting me ready for the bedroom including getting the juices flowing. Then knowing what I want and asking for that too. As well as what my partner wants. It can mean negotiating, taking turns. It can mean a cosy night in, a fun night out, a sexy movie and a shared bath.
That's me, you may wish to examine for yourself what does this for you. Then go do some of it. Not to show another instead to show yourself. That means for you, and that is a permission from V for you to have an A with yourself. No other person to be involved but you. These are skills you learn for you.
Trust on this, others will notice. Really it's true, they will.
And this way it's permanent.
If you hit a speed bump then explore the reason, FOO, lack of desire physiologically, excess weight, or anything else. And if you discover you are one of those who needs to use the Nike approach, find a Nike approach for you.
Those are my views, it's a slightly frank post for this part of the forum. There is a section on the SSM, here withDaddylongshanks, I recommend a read.
Hugs
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
