Turning Point

[Vanilla]

A link to the discussion on anger

Vanilla, Zues, Mutatio and others on anger (V thread 29)

There are some points on Mu thread.

Link to Zues current thread

Zues latest thread some lovely posts by SunnyB

V

[PacLove]

Thanks V will take me a while to digest all the info.

Had pleasant interactions with W last night until she brought up her living accommodations. She wants to give notice to the tenants in our rental property so she can move in. She was seeking my approval.

I told her I did not agree with his and if she wants to give them notice it's her choice and that she has a home she can come by home to.

I also said that if she moves in there she'll have to figure out how to afford it on her own. If she does this it definitely puts some permanence to the separation. She originally said 3 months and when I asked her about that last night she said she thought we agreed until the end of the year at least and how she enjoys not fighting with me because we are apart.

I didn't sleep well at all last night and it killed my plans to go out for a ride this morning as I was too tired.

[PacLove]

Another weekend past and another where both of us spent time together - positive or not, I don't know. Was W's weekend with D, she really wanted to go to an event on Saturday (as did I) so we made it a family day. W didn't originally want to go but she actually had a great time.

Today I had an opportunity to validate my W (over txt) as she was complaining about work. Was doing great I think until I related it to a personal experience I had a while back - I think that stopped the conversation short as I turned on to me... but I was merely trying to empathize with how she felt.

I had a great GAL day spending time with family yesterday on a big park - good or bad though unfortunately this allows lots of time to contemplate and reflect back on life.

Something strange I've noticed is over the last week I've found myself thinking a lot about one of my exes, perhaps its because I'm relating to the same feeling of loss I experienced back then after a long-term relationship having no control over the situation. The only difference is back then I brought up the idea of time apart to which she immediately latched on to and ran with it.

[PacLove]

So I'm going to rant here for a minute... I can't help but think that the current Media promotes promiscuous lifestyles and likely had a direct impact on many of our M's. Many of the most popular TV dramas out there have "Affairs" as part of there plotlines, then there are a few more recent shows that are centered directly around Affairs and Promiscuous lifestyles.

My W has watched them all! And I can't help but think this has pushed her over the edge or at least given her some ideas or validated her decisions.

[J5K]

Ummm yes, I would agree. Did your W have a fave?

[PacLove]

Not sure if mentioning TV shows violates any forum rules (if so, sorry and feel free to delete) but long standing have been Greys Anatomy and Scandal. Earlier this year she binged watched "The Affair", "Secret Diaries of a Call Girl" and "Mistresses".

[J5K]

Mine liked satisfaction which we watched together.

[PacLove]

We only watched scandal together and I think Mistresses once or twice, she really didn't want me watching them with her despite me showing some interest. She mostly watched them on her tablet.

[PacLove]

Satisfaction looks juicy, glad she hasn't found that one yet, probably cause it's not available in streaming.

[PacLove]

W has been a bit chatty yesterday and today via IM... struggle with not responding (feel like I'm being cold and standoffish if I don't) is this a bad thing?

I usually wait a bit but the impatience gets to me and usually cave within the hour. some of it has been regarding D, some of it is just casual chit-chat about work or news. She always initiates.