Divorces R Us

[Rose888]

Zeus, I appreciate you taking the time to respond.

I hear you. Although I never cut H off for years (or even months) at a time, I did not prioritize his sexual needs as much as I should have. I could have really used your 2x4 earlier in my marriage--even 2 years ago.

As it is, I had my epiphany right about the time H decided he couldn't keep holding the rope.

I have changed, but I understand why H has trouble believing those changes are real. He's not looking for perpetual satisfaction, but he does want to feel desired by his wife, and he doesn't want to go back to the marriage we had before.

I don't either. I want a better marriage with the same man.

I admire your commitment to marriage, but my value system includes a belief that sometimes leaving a marriage is necessary. Only H can decide if it is necessary for him. In the meantime, I am going to do what I can to show that I won't go back to the way I was.