Thank you so much for your insights. And I'm so impressed by your strength. I don't know if I could survive the A if it happened to me.
I appreciate your insights about thinking of one marriage being over because you married someone who used to be someone different. And now you are trying to continue your marriage with a new version of that person, who is working on getting rid of some of the qualities you fell in love with.
God this stuff is so hard.
I think my wife is having to decide whether she likes the less nice me too. She ultimately couldn't be intimate with someone she felt was a doormat, but is having a hard time getting used to the person who she's used to be able to bowl over.
I really hope you two come back changed but stronger. The good news is you guys both have that goal.
You give me hope, because you have managed to make it this far with all that you have gone through. That you are piecing and keeping your marriage together. That you are all in.
