Hi again, Painter. I'm so disappointed to hear that your H has turned out to be such a schmuck, or as Zeus put it so well, a lying cheaterpants (awesome phrase), and I am just so sorry that this latest bomb has has triggered so much pain.
That said, it also sounds like you have just tapped into a new well of strength. Use it!
He doesn't deserve you and, quite frankly, he doesn't deserve to know the reasoning behind your change of heart about wanting to rush the D through. I wouldn't talk to him at all. Just get the ball rolling as quickly as you can with as little contact as possible. I absolutely agree with what Zeus said about contacting your H. Do it if you must, but know that that lying WH victim script is what you are going to hear. I doubt that it will leave you feeling any better.
You are an incredible woman. Honor yourself, Painter.
I wish I could hand you one of my little chicks this evening to give you comfort. I can hear them peeping right now, and I think the concentrated dose of cuteness would do you a lot of good. Picture a sweet little chipmunk-striped yellow and brown chick, and know that I am sending that little bit of sweetness your way tonight.
Try to rest, Painter.
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
