Following up after the blowout call... My work's payroll screwed up and my direct deposit still went into joint checking. I immediately pulled it out cash withdrawal. About an hour after the blowout call, she called and asked if I withdrew money. I told her yes... she said why? I told her that because she is threatening to hire lawyers every other conversation, and we don't have much money, I needed to be certain that if you do choose to retain an attorney, the bills can still get paid... she actually took it 'not bad'.
then she said, 'i think you're making things ways more complicated than they need to be. I said, "okay, my intentions are not to complicate matters, I'm only trying to make sure there is money left to pay the bills. Her, "I just can't believe you're doing this. I can't believe you are acting this way. You're being a d*ck and you know it. You know, all this is doing is driving me further away from you! what are you expecting to gain out of this?"
I said, 'you say that like you're expecting me to try to win you back into the marriage. you told me you wanted a divorce, so what else am I supposed to expect? It doesn't really get much "further away" from your spouse than a permanent divorce, so I'm just trying to find ways I can improve myself now.'
...this comment through me for a loop... further away? is she expecting me to chase after her and win her back? this comment alone tells me she's so uncertain and confused and scared... and then I'm left confused.
