I am posting from cell, but I really wanted to reach out to you. I am so so sorry that you are dealing with this and in pain. I am glad that this is going to be your turning point.
I really agree with everything zues posted (love the term lying cheaterpants). Especially regarding not acknowledging him with a response. He is not the person you believed him to be when you married him.
When I first signed onto these boards I was pretty firm in my stance that I would never reconcile with someone that cheats. Even once. After reading these forums for a little less then a year, I am more committed to that belief. You are a loyal and faithful person, but you cannot make someone else be loyal and faithful. You cannot rationalize or argue or guilt them into behaving that way because they lack that quality. I don't buy or accept the fog theory.
All you can do is choose to move on. He needs to be cut off. Trust me, it will feel good.
You are such a independent, intelligent, beautiful and strong woman. You don't need this man for anything. You have been so unhappy and frustrated and worst of all betrayed. By allowing this to continue you are not treating yourself the way you are expecting your WH to.
We all know you would be writing this to anyone of us on here so why not to yourself?
