"When you say "do you have access to OW" do you mean to approach?"
I am confused by this--I don't see where I asked this.
I get the sense you are feeling hopeless and are waiting for H to make some sort of decision. Well you have a right to make some decisions too! Take your power back! Perhaps you need to take a giant step back, create space, do not go for any crumbs he throws you and keep it vague. It is okay to let him know that you are not comfortable with the way things are, that you need some space right now, and that you have a lot to think about. You do not owe him any explanations and you do not need to answer to him. You can create your own boundaries and I don't think it would hurt for him to think you are not his plan B, you are not sitting around waiting for him, and if he has feelings for OW then you naturally do not want to be around him. ... Then you go out and be fabulous, feel fabulous, and treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated!
Continue to be polite and respectful, but hold your head up high and let him see how you deserve to be treated! -Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
