Job, Yes i get that. Just didn't think H would lie to everyone, but I guess if H is lying to me , why wouldn't H do that with everyone. Thank you for reminding me, this is a disease/sickness.
I have not interferred at all or contacted H since C on Wednesday. i am letting go and letting God help H thru his situation. "detaching", is that what this would be called?
As for D, the R with H was already strained b/c of H drinking and other factors, which i don't truly know, built up anger or whatever from prior years where D thought she needed to be responsible for H if/when I wasn't there. before confrontation yesterday their only interaction was only at work, but i don't know if they will even have that.
I affirmed D that she has every right to be mad,angry,hurt,upset, etc. No one can tell her she can't feel these things and no one can take that from her. D is a very private person, so i know that this will not be an issue for her not to talk about H and OW Affair. My only concern there is that others will talk and she will finally hit her breaking point and implode or explode!
i am trying to work on myself. trying being the key word. i have lucid moments and then i have some insane moments. I think the lucid moments are becoming more often than the insane moments. Insane moments come when I don't have something to keep me busy. Tonight is going for a walk with a friend after work as everyone will be out of the house and I can't just sit there.
wife of an addict M 39 H 39 D18 D 16 Together 19 M17
