Why don't you come to your senses?

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MIL is home but is on oxygen and at the moment is bedridden due to the broken ribs. But nursing care will be coming in and hopefully she will soon be able to get up and moving some. Right now, she's just happy to be at home.

I haven't spoken to H since Tuesday at the office. I sent a text about the biopsy since he asked that I keep him posted about that and received a short response but no other contact.

In MLC land ...

When I asked H to move out of the house last October, I told him I didn't want any contact except about the business. At the time, he was treating me with a ton of disrespect in person and otherwise, acting like he could say and do anything and I'd put up with it, and I felt like I needed to let him know I wouldn't tolerate that stuff. He has done as I asked.

When he was here last time, he mentioned twice that I had asked him not to call and he had respected my wishes. He vaguely alluded to wanting to call once in a while just to talk about issues he may be having with suppliers or "other stuff" going on in his life. I told him to call any time he liked and that I'd enjoy talking to him.

To this point, he hasn't initiated contact (other than at the office) with the exception of a brief call on Mother's Day.

I feel like the time we spent together and the conversations we had when he was here were productive and I don't want that to fade away over the next two months. But I don't want to push or pursue.

I've been trying to decide if it's best to just let him be or if I should slightly open a window to encourage some contact from him since he alluded to that when he was here. If he wants to call more frequently for things other than business, then I want him to feel like he can and that I'm fine with that (now). But I want him to initiate contact because HE wants to and he feels like it's safe to do so. I don't want to come across as wanting or expecting him to call more. Am I making any sense?

I've decided to try an experiment. I sent an email this morning of the type one friend would send another. Nothing personal and absolutely no R stuff. It included things like I got this taken care of and I called that repair guy like he suggested. I gave him an update on my sister since he usually asks about her and said a few words about MIL. I also asked if he'd hung the pictures we bought when he was here and if the pants looked good with the shirts he was trying to match. Then wished him a great weekend. (On a side note, I always hate wishing him a great day or enjoyable evening because in the back of my mind I wonder if I just wished him a great time doing something I may not particularly be happy about.)

I'm curious to see what, if any, response I get to that. I'm not sure if that was the right thing to do or not. A year ago it absolutely would not have been as I was still the enemy and the cause of all his misery. I don't think I'm in that role anymore, so maybe sending the email was safe?? Time will tell, I suppose.