Obsession with OW

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CK2001,

I looked through my W's "stuff" as I have gone through my sitch. It's how I've found out most of the stuff I know about whats she's done. There's good and bad to it. The bad being what it does to us, enraging our emotions and putting us down a path thats not healthy for our happiness. I think we all struggle with that at first. I think its in us to want to know the whole story because maybe that will make everything better. As I've gone along, it has gotten easier to not do it, but I do slip every once in a while.

I guess the realization that you come to is you are usually right with you gut feelings, actually seeing the proof doesn't help much besides get you more worked up.

I would say I tend to make a stand that I'm not going to look today. And then today becomes 2 days and you go from there. Once you can get through a short span, getting through a longer one seems easier. Keep busy. Find articles to read online etc. It keeps the mind busy.

Also I would add to assume he is doing something wrong most of the time, and then do what you need to from there. He's already proven he is distrustful, assume he will continue to do so until he has proven otherwise to your satisfaction