I will see my W's parents for the first time since this all started. I know they know we are getting a D, but I have no idea how my W has portrayed all this to them. They do not know about OM.
Part of me would love to have a conversation with them and tell them that their daughter has had two affairs, both of them after she bore their two grandchildren and that she expresses no remorse. Part of me would love to tell them that yes, their daughter says she wants to do what is best for the kids, but in reality she ignores the kids so she can talk to OM, (I've lost count how many times the kids were begging for her attention and she was oblivious because she was texting OM.) Oh, by the way grandma and grandpa, your daughter's OM is suicidal, alcoholic, drug user, gun fanatic, and was recently part of a violent street fight where he was stabbed. Yes, yes, I know, I'm not perfect, I used to get defensive and I had a difficult time figuring out how to emotionally connect with her, but, I'm college educated, I have a great career, I am stable, no criminal record and I don't drink or use drugs or even smoke. I asked your daughter to try and work on our marriage many many times over the years, I admitted my mistakes and demonstrated meaningful change and committment to our vows. She concluded that her unhappiness was my fault and has turned to OM since he promises a life of happiness.
What do you think? (If you can't tell, there is a wee bit of sarcasm in this post.)
