Honestly, the reason your M is failing is because there is more than two people in it. It really is that simple. If you can't get the A, or A's, ended then you don't have a chance. Really detach (you haven't done that yet, not in the least), really do GAL (you've done very little of that), and really move on.
I guarantee she still loves you but she's lost in the fog right now. You've let that go on too long and now the douche bag has moved there, probably to be with her. A's must be ended by any means necessary for people hoping to save their M's. My wife's A was blow to smithereens in epic proportion by the OM's wife. It was very epic and it worked.
When did my wife stop all the BS and start acting human again? When I really truly gave up on her, got my sh*t together, and had her served with D papers. Snapped her right out of it.
