Tab, If your h lied to you, do you honestly think he would be honest w/the OW and everyone else? MLCers lie all of the time. If their lips are moving, the lies spew forth. They are in denial of what they are doing. Their relationship is built on lies and the so called love nest is built on sand and what happens to sand when it rains? The love nest will fall. That's why it's important to allow the affair to run a natural course because 9 times out of 10 they are built on lies.
Now, about your daughter. There's nothing she can do about what her father is doing. The more she talks to him about it, the more determined he's going to be to do what he's doing and he's going to shut her down and distance himself from her. So, when employees question your daughter about the situation, she needs to advise them that they need to speak directly to her father. As she is not in the habit of discussing family business outside of the immediate family. She needs to get herself out of discussing her father and his affair w/the employees. She can be nice about shutting the employees down, but she needs to do it soon so that they don't continue to come to her for info to gossip about.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
