The school is better. It is a top ten school in the state.
I'm frustrated b/c we moved here together and the school system was good then and now it is not. Similarly, I can't imagine not living in the same town as the school system my kids are going to, but then I would have to leave the house we built. Which I think would be difficult but I could do it. My D cries when I mention it. She loves it here.
Well - of course it is frustrating and it is not fair. I'm a pragmatist though - and I think you need to deal with what is. Top ten school in the state? That seems fairly compelling. And as to not living in the same district - there's nothing that says you have to make that decision right now. Your daughter is only in kindergarten. You could give it a year and see how it goes before you decide if you want to move or not.
Originally Posted By: mahhhty
For the above, I know she will use other people constantly so that she can live her life, with pick ups/drop offs/etc. I can't consistently pick up her slack, especially if they are further away. I do my best b/c I want to see the kids more, but every time I am asked it is always last minute.
Well -is it so awful that she has family around to pick up the slack? It seems like a positive to me that there are so many extended family members willing to help out. The important thing is that they get dropped up and picked up by people you can trust, right?
Originally Posted By: mahhhty
As for the house piece, what happens when she does the same thing to the new guy. Is she going to pick up and move the kids again? How do I stabilize the kids against that?
Once the kids are established in a school she will have a lot harder time moving them - then you can threaten the legal route with some confidence. By the way - before you agree to anything - I would check with a lawyer to make sure this doesn't put you at any potential disadvantage. As to stabilizing the kids - Mahhhty - you won't be able to protect them from all of her bad life choices. However - you can look at additional ways to be a stabilizing force in their lives. Speaking from experience - I can assure you that, now that your daughter is starting elementary school, they will be looking for regular parent volunteers in the classroom. If your work schedule allows - you should look at that. Are they going to be playing sports? I guarantee the local sports leagues are always looking for parents to coach. Look for all the ways you can add time with them - that's the best stability you can give them.
