I had texted the other day that exH should see D8's swim team before it ends. he would be impressed. He never responded. Today, he showed up and I didn't know until the end because I worked out while D8 swam. I was really happy that he showed up for her. But then he baragged her with critiques of her swimming and she told me later she was upset and asked why daddy couldn't give her a compliment. I show her areas of improvement myself, but always make sure to compliment where she did great or improved.
he informed me today ex FIl has throat Cancer. I see ex FIL every Tuesday because he takes D8 to swim for me on Tuesdays and I meet them from work. He had a very raspy voice and he told me he has a growth, but it doesn't hurt, so it's probably nothing, but everyone is making me do this. That was when I knew it was throat cancer before he got the biopsy. he tells me in front of D8 and talks about his treatment options. D8 is no longer 2, and knows what we are saying is not good. She freaks out in the car thinking he is going to die. I explained everything to her in a way she could be comforted and understand.
I really wonder about my ex sometimes. D8 is now noticing his "shrortcomings". I have a feeling I will have to be doing a lot more damage control......
