Well, I'm at just about 5 months now (I can hardly believe it's been that long already, thought sometimes it also feels like an eternity), and still no word about a D being initiated by H. I know that I'm not going to do so anytime soon, either.
I'm too busy getting on with my life, and I can't do that if I'm thinking about him all day long. If I got involved in the D process, it would take over my life. I'm just not ready for that, now that I feel like I am finally keeping my head above water.
I'm using this gift of time to get myself to a better place, one where I am better equipped to handle whatever comes my way.
When I think about how fragile I was just a few weeks ago, it seems like that was another person. Of course, if I get served, I might just crash again. I'll face that if and when it becomes reality. Until that point, I'm rolling with good days whenever they come my way.
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16