But with my new attitude, I see it as SHE lost ME.
Hear hear!
For me too, I was certainly no prize the last few years because of my own baggage I was dealing with, but now I feel like I've had my reckoning and am moving forward. Meanwhile WW is still spinning; still flailing externally for what will make her happy.
Me, WW - Upper 30s BD - Apr 1 2016 EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away) Confronted wife about EA - May 17 Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11