which is why part of me is glad this happened, because it seemed to trigger something inside of me that otherwise might not have.
DigIt - this ^^^ right here is the right attitude and the one pearl of wisdom I wish everyone to leave this place with. Take this horrible situation as a trigger to reclaim yourself. Focus on that, only that, and not on her, and let the chips fall where they may. You are guaranteed to leave here happier than you were, regardless of what happens.
yep, things will be as they may. The only thing I am in control of is myself, so I'm focused on that.
Regardless if we are married or divorced, I've already lost her. But with my new attitude, I see it as SHE lost ME.