Why again did I agree to move out of my home to rough it out living with my parents until we sell the matrimonial condo?
How can someone just swap out their husband for another man literally overnight? (I guess it wasn't overnight because I believe the EA started years ago).
How can WW subject their kid to this utter dysfunction?
As a man how do I recover from this ultimate ego blow, where I have lost my wife and 1/2 my daughter. Any my home, dignity, and sense of worth?
How is WW carrying on this Affair without her family finding out or someone at work discovering?
My Parents tell me that until I forgive WW for what she is doing the anger and bitterness will eat from the inside out. I understand what they are saying but how can I get past all this?
1GR- we are in the same universe and sphere with what you are going thru. I am being asked to leave weekly for 4 months now and will have to shortly not because by law I need to but doing what's best for may daughter and situation. YOU are too and doing what you thought was right....she is NOT. Don't look back on it and just that you did what a good dad would do.
Ego- OMG...how does this suck? It does. Again ..going thru the same thing. STBX has lied to me about EA since last summer and PA since she filed so she had a clearer conscious. It hurts sometimes alot and then fades and then hurts. It is THEIR dysfunction NOT yours. You can look in the mirror and not have to down a bunch of rolaids to sleep...bet she does!
Anger/bitterness- add resentment and hate to the list. I don't have an answer for you on this. My friends keep telling me "so what" .....she didn't really cheat on you until she filed and even if so, your the better person and didn't stray.
I think you can not get past this bitterness until over time. I know I won't...it will take a good amount of time for me no matter what anyone tells me but get your happiness pill from the children and hopefully doing other things that make you smile. And maybe meeting someone who appreciates you more in the future!!!
_________________________ Me-48 Spouse-WAW 52 Married for 10 years D7 ILYBNILWY 7/15 Suspect EA/PA 12/15 No confirmation/denial She files 1/2016 Working towards the Big D ...still in progress....
