Hey lovely, people always post that the letting down of your kids is the worst and I can understand your upset.

I would echo what RD has said and add that MLCers are so self-absorbed that they just don't have much to give. They don't have the tools just now to build and maintain healthy relationships. That's why they have dalliances with scuzzy OWs. I'm not excusing him - but I do believe this is the case and hope the reminder may help.

Also, when I'm rattled I do try to look inward at what this has triggered in me and what I can do about it (regardless of what he may be doing.)

Mostly, remember that 'rattled' isn't a great time to make big decisions. Maybe let the episode pass and then see how you feel.

Take care Sweetie xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus