After 11 days of not seeing my h (if I don't count stopping on the red light right next to him - what's the likelyhood?!) I will have to see him tomorrow in joint therapy session. I'm not happy about it. I think the therapist is not helpful. He is quite negative about us as a couple, his conclusion after just one session together, which was not meant as couples therapy but rather seeking help for h's issues, are not exactly positive. After the first session we had individual sessions and one joint session last week. He suggested 3 more joint ones where we talk about 10 events from our life together and what were our feelings. I really don't think it's helping. I'm thinking about going tomorrow but stopping after that (unless my h will want to continue). I don't think he is in the state to feel anything recalling the good moments & Im afraid that when we talk about the bad ones it just confirms to him that it's a good decision to split for good. He already said that the outcome of the therapy cannot be reconciliation. That for him it's over. I found another therapist who seems to be very pro-saving marriages. I have an appointment in June. But that'll be for individual session as for sure I won't be able to get my h to join. I wish I didn't have to go tomorrow. We should have waited a bit more with joint sessions. I do miss my h but the person I see these past few months it's not really him...
