You CAN do both, but you have to realize that the divorce is a business deal and DB'ING is more about YOU!

Think of it like this. You and your neighbor work for competing companies, you still smile & wave as you see each other. Still say0, "Hey, did you catch the Cubs game last night?" (And if you tell me you're a Sox fan that might be the first problem you correct, lol)
What goes on socially with your neighbor has nothing to do with your jobs. Make divorce the same, hire a lawyer or mediator and make a list of assets/debts and go from there. No emotion.

Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction