Filing OFP is really disturbing if she was using it to exploit and manipulate the system.
Mustardseed and a poster named angel I believe and I'm sure others had to deal with similar situations. Might not be a bad idea to read up on those, because you need to be careful that you are not baited... You speak with so much anger (I totally get this. It's a reaction to some pretty bad behaviors ) and I notice you seem to insult wife's level of intellect frequently. I hope IRL you have Control of this so that it cannot be used against you.
It's hard coming to terms with the real dynamics of a relationship. I struggle as well. Sometimes I'm not sure if the ways i behaved dysfunctionally were reactionary to behaviors that were dysfunctional. Or if I had trouble communicating or who knows.
I wish i had more advice other then to focus on you, watch your behaviors and reactions, and do everything legally that is in your own best interest.
