Focus on me and my boys

[rich4j]

Jim
You have so many moving parts and things going on...I am sorry for your situation as i have posted before on your threads and have been keeping track.

I know you are worried about what she is doing which is 200% natural and being in the same house (right? ) is impossible. I am in the same situation with many moving parts including she wants me out now becuz she can't handle the guilt situation that i know everything now and she is in denial.

My only advice to keep your sanity is to switch off the "I care what she is doing" thoughts. Impossible? no but hard. You can't control her GALing and I know it kills you on how it is impacting your boys but DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT. They will see what is going on and gravitate to the one who really cares which is you. It is too much for you to have to fix and care for all of this so she doesn't deserve that part of your brain...turn it off for now if you can.

What can you do for you to keep your life from being crazy and your boys? What has your lawyer recommended that puts you in the best future position to be the best father you can be while figuring this all out? If she is in the fog it seems she is and will continue for a while, you have to let it go as she will end up only hurting herself and unfortunately neglecting the boys.

And over time which is also what you don't want to hear, you will get more time with the boys. And your situation could be totally different.

Focus on the boys. Focus on what you can do that keeps you sane and not where you can't be the best dad possible. And unfocus on her.....easier said than done.