Too little too late?

[CRW]

So I set this boundary with her last night. She flipped her lid.

[J5K]

Of course she did. She wants to control everything. My STBX does the same, criticizes me for every little detail to make me feel like I am not parenting well or correctly.

Well she does not get that privilege anymore since she is choosing to leave the M.

[CRW]

This morning she then asked me if I was still taking my Lexipro (which i take 10 mg of a day, and I weight 200lbs, not fat).

Like the fact that I set a boundary with her must mean I am going nuts or something.

[MoveFrwd]

Can you maybe give a little bit more information...?

What boundary did you set? How did you do it?

[CRW]

Sent her this text:

If there is an issue tonight that requires your attention I will let you know. Otherwise I will provide you with an update on the kids via text tomorrow after I drop them off. Enjoy your night.

[CRW]

She immediately blew me up with calls and texts that were basically threats.

[dream]

For future reference, there's no need to send a text like that telling her what you're going to do. Just do what you're going to do. If she texts you, "what did kids eat for dinner?" Just ignore it and go on with your day. You can give her whatever update you'd like the next day. Of course if there is a reasonable concern, address it right away. But daily details are not necessary to share.

[CRW]

I never realized to what extent I have been letting her cake eat. It is much harder than I thought to cut that off.

That text just set her off like no other though, and I didn't think it was that mean.

[CRW]

I appreciate the advice, I will follow it.

I'm going to follow the advice here, because I clearly have no idea what I am doing!

MRI tomorrow morning on my knee, hopefully I can get back to the GAL soon.

[CRW]

So she is constantly hounding me now about signing divorce papers. DO I give her what she wants?