So good to hear from people - thank you - Cadet, Job, wise words as ever. WH - I am so happy for you (apart from the local unpleasantness from xh - they do this stuff, sadly. It distracts them from their own situation. Punishing us is a sort of MLC hobby for many)
What is interesting is that so much of what has been written about MLC, my xh has confirmed. He talked and talked and talked. Boy talk about floodgates opening.
The realization of his behaviour was triggered by a comment from my middle son last July. It has taken more than 9 months to come to fruition in his MLC brain.
He said that I never deserved any of what had happened to me.
The good thing is, I worked this out all on my own!!. But good to hear it after all this time.
Unlike previous conversations, he now understands there is no magic wand to make everything OK, even to a kind of low level friendship.
I will post updates as and when. Not expecting anything at all for quite a while. He needs to process. I am not the person he left, in so many ways.
