Was walking my own hell for awhile and now I feel better.
Red, I made a point to my XH and would make his life a complete hell if he would share my children with OW.
Please, talk to your L about this and reinforce it as much as you can. This is not just some OW, this was your best friend that used to spend time with your kids. This is a woman that lived in your house for some time and got to know and share your kids in many levels at that time.
If he wants to be nasty and do that to his family then it is all his business, but he has no right to take the kids and play family with that bloody bit**.
It is your children and if you do not want that kind of aggression on them, then he can go to hell forever, but you will stand up for your kids.
What is this guy thinking? What kind of messed up kids he wants to raise. They had mom and dad, then aunt bit** shows up, now dad is gone and then dad sleeps with aunt bit**, as your daughter even told you before when he did it at your house.
When does one stops the insanity and see what cruelty they are doing for such two innocent kids?
If in your heart you think it is not appropriate for your kids, then he does not get the kids. I know it is complicate because you are trying to get him back, but maybe he needs to know that he can't treat his family this way and then he will grow some respect for you.
This is my opinion, but I would talk to my L and get these things straight asap. Your kids are small now, and some results of this dirty arrangement will show up it's signs down the road when they are teenagers and don't care about anything or anyone else.
I am really sorry to see that your H is not changing and is still being such Jerk. And I am even more sorry to know that you need to be the grown up, the adult, the responsible.
